In light of All’s Fair in Love and Lingerie’s post, I wanted to post some additional information about my point of view in regards to whether or not women behind should post their faces. Before I begin, I would like to make extremely clear that there is no expectation of what people should do and that I support anyone sharing whatever they want to share. No one has to post anything they don’t want to, including their faces.

Now that that’s out of the way:

My comments have never been an attack on girls who choose not to show their faces (in fact, I know why most women choose not to show their faces), so I’ll be upfront and say that there’s no need to be defensive. Show what you want, how much you want, when you want. The issue at hand, and what spurned the initial discussion, has always been the lack of diversity in print and online media and its blurred lines*.

Frankly speaking, the intent behind this discussion stems from the slim white girl narrative that is ever so prevalent, and I’m tired of it being shoved down my throat. I find it completely unrelatable, and it has literally nothing to do with me: I am not white, and I am not slim (I wear a US 10/12, weigh about 155-160 pounds). I am constantly bombarded by images of slim white women every day. Every. Single. Day. If I choose to disassociate with images of slim white women with faces, why would I actively partake of images without them? (*This bring up another point that I don’t have the time or energy or discuss, but if I were to only show images from my neck down, how am I presenting myself? Would people know that I am Asian?)

For me, not showing a face removes a personal identifier that sets someone apart from another. I understand that some women may deliberately seek anonymity, and if you want to remain anonymous, I support your decision 100%.

I already know what lingerie I like. I also know that you can NEVER gauge or understand fit or sizing from a photograph, so for me, what keeps me around the community are the close friendships and connections I’ve made (yes, even with slim white women who completely get where I’m coming from; I love you all so much!) and hope to make in the future. This might not be the same for everyone, and I don’t expect my beliefs and personal experiences to dictate others’.

I was extremely apprehensive about posting my face online. However, as a woman of color who has a desk job and is in her 30s who is probably one of the most adultingest adults in the blogopshere, I wanted to represent who I really am. Is it a risk? Yes, but the consequences for me aren’t as grave as others. Do I still get weirded out by creeps? Yep. Do I actively tell people about my blog? Nope nope nope. Have I dealt with judgment about posting pictures of myself in ~provocatively clothing~? Hell yes. Choosing to show your face, part of your face, or your elbow is a decision that each person needs to make. I am not better for showing mine.

I’m at the point in my life where I can say that I like myself, including the Asian part of me that I loathed for years. I want people to know that I am not white and that I have thoughts and feelings that are equally important. I want people to know that without a doubt, I proudly AM a woman of color. This time, with no shame or apologies.

Please don’t message/tweet/contact me saying how I don’t support women and how dare I suggest that women must show their faces. This is the furthest thing from the truth. You do you; I support you 100%.

PS – Megan & I have talked (and still talk!), so there is no secret dramafest going on.  I value her contributions to the lingerie blogging scene, and she makes the cutest underwear. Plus, I’m grateful for her suggestion and tips on buying the right size Fortnight bra. ;)

It’s hot. So damned hot. When the Gulf Coast summers are so humid and stifling hot, I rarely wear any of my nice lingerie. I’ve reached the point where I’m just going to buy a bag of Hanes/Fruit of the Loom/whatever is sold in a sack and call it a day until October/November. (Come to think of it, I’m actually wearing Hanes boxer briefs that I bought 5… 7… years ago. :P) ANYWAY.

When you live in Texas and are being choked by humidity at 6:00AM, you look for very lightweight, comfortable, drapey items. Lately, I’ve been living in these lightweight robes that I purchased from ForBride on Etsy.

Funny enough, someone I met in real life actually sent me a link to this store! When I was getting ready for work in the gym basement at my office (my preferred place to shower although I work out at the YMCA), this friendly, gorgeous girl asked if she could share the vanity with me and complimented me on my shoes. She had on the prettiest robe, and I told her how much I loved it and asked her where she got it. She said she received it from her friend as a bridesmaid gift, but I could easily find something like it on Etsy. I got her business card, dropped her an email, and she sent me a link to a similar robe. :)

(c) ForBride - item image stock photo.

(c) ForBride – item image stock photo.

Apparently these are “typical” bridesmaids gifts, which explains how they can be easily found on Etsy! I ended up purchasing this floral robe in mint and in blue floral plate (lol), both in size large. I paid $19.99 for each robe and $12 for shipping.

Now, I really don’t know if the shop owner’s story is true, but assuming that it is, I’m always willing to support small independent businesses, even more so if they’re owned & operated by WoC. Some people refuse to buy made in China, but I find that general rhetoric ignorant and off-putting; I’m Chinese and talent/opportunities/internet livelihoods are not limited solely to the West. Furthermore, not everyone in China is a big evil faceless factory.

I did email the seller with a question, and she responded back in a few hours. It took a week before my order went into EMS stream. I received my order 10 days after it shipped. All in all, I am very satisfied with the customer service.

The gown has an inside tie, and it has belt loops to hold the belt. The seams are neatly serged, and the hem (and sleeve edge) is double folded, sewn with a straight stitch, ~3mm; not the best but good enough. I think the floral pattern is pretty! (I ADORE the blue pattern as well, but I only had time to snap the mint one.)

Closeup of the floral pattern in the mint color.

Closeup of the floral pattern in the mint color.

The robes were advertised as being 100% cotton, but I actually don’t believe that is the case. The robes are made of a tightly woven fabric that is super silky to touch and incredibly drapey. Methinks it’s rayon. For some, this may be a huge dealbreaker, but I’m honestly not even mad. These gowns are super airy and super floaty but still provide coverage without being see through (did I mention how damned hot it was here??), but please be aware: I would only recommend laundering these in a mesh bag on the delicates/handwash cycle.

I wear my robes at home or at the gym. It feels like such a lovely treat especially when I peel off my sweaty gym clothes and gather my toiletries before I hit the showers. Since I do use my robes predominantly at the gym, the fact that they’re so lightweight without being transparent is such a huge plus. I love my robes, and they’re undeniably in my top 5 favorite, most useful garments that I’ve ever purchased.

ForBride Mint Robe (Worn)
And really, I just can’t say no to a pretty robe!

All items in this post were purchased by me; ForBride did not ask for a review, nor do they even know who I am. :P No affiliate links were used.

By now, I’m sure that many of you are aware of this article written by Cora Harrington of The Lingerie Addict. In a nutshell, white girls are being paraded around in yellowface to sell underwear. And in typical kneejerk reaction, as short-sighted and as white as white can be, Marlies Dekkers blocked Cora from their social media, and Guerrilla Geisha decided to leave a “thought-provoking comment.”

Yeah, this is going to go really well.

Patrizia Grilli designer of Guerilla Geisha, left this comment as of today.

LET’S GET INTO THIS.

My skin is white, and I have been the subject of racist laughter for my Italian accent or looks, yet somehow I feel that this debate is leaning towards the “people of colour” exercise. We are one species, one woman shall I dare say.

First off, I don’t need a privileged white person who claims to experience first hand racism (just lol) condescendingly telling me, a women of color and someone who *IS* Asian who has to deal with a ton of bullshit and stereotypes about Asian women, how I should feel. Until you’ve been treated by men as an ~experience~, objectified by men as a sex object due to disgusting perpetuated stereotypes, have been constantly undermined at work because you are a women of color, have been sexually harassed by men not only in public but also repeatedly in the workplace, deal with bullshit comments how “you don’t talk with an accent, where are you from?! (and it happened AGAIN a few days ago),” and have been told to repeatedly be quiet, seriously, fuck off. Please take your “people of colour exercise” comment, and shove it up your asshole.

BONUS: this Dutch show was apparently really popular where a Dutch woman portrayed a Japanese woman named Ushi Hirosaki. This is 100% yellowface. I can’t even watch it.

I think it’s quite important to remember the true origins of Geisha; that the word Geisha literally translates as “artist” or “person of the arts”, and that they were in fact originally men.

Is Ms. Grilli trying to pay homage to taikomachi? What’s the relevancy of this? This statement literally feels like it was googled in order to come off as somewhat educated about the issue at hand. This collection has nothing to do with taikomachi, and I would eat my shoe if Guerrilla Geisha went into this

1. Doing actual history about Japanese (or Asian culture)
2. With the intention to sell product to transvestites or transgendered or men who like to wear women’s clothing/makeup/etc.

I actually do have my undergrad degree in East Asian History (yeah, totally worthless EXCEPT FOR NOW) that focused on academic writing for both the histories of Japan and China, so yeah. Please stop. Either make an effort to educate yourself, but don’t spit out the first result of google in order to school people.

However, it doesn’t mean that if designers take inspiration from Oriental aesthetics and use it in a tasteful and respectful way, that they are on the racist bandwagon or are out in force to ridicule, sexualize and stereotype Asian women.

I actually have no issue with designers taking inspiration from Asian culture whatsoever. I don’t find the Bordelle imagery to be particularly offensive, but just lay off the chopsticks in hair, mmmk? I know that some people are very sensitive when they see someone who isn’t of that ethnicity in ethnic dress, but for me, especially when it comes to qipao, yukata, etc., they were all “regular” dress before Westernized clothing became popular. If someone who isn’t Asian wants to wear Asian dress, I have no problem with it. I think qipao is gorgeous, and if someone wants to wear it, go right on ahead. (Please avoid those gross cheap polyester satin monstrosities.)

Tang Wei in Lust, Caution. Don't even get me started about the dress in this movie.  *hearts in eyes*

Tang Wei in Lust, Caution. The dress in this movie was beyond gorgeous. *hearts in eyes*

Here's another one. :)  You're welcome!

Here’s another one. :) You’re welcome!

Things get tricky, however, when non-ethnic brands tend to capitalize on ethnic culture, which in this scenario, includes dress. Personally, I’m not against it if a fashion power house wanted to create a line of qipao, but that said, inherently, I would prefer a Chinese brand and company to have similar recognition. The economics and circumstances come into play where this may or may not be possible. I’m not saying how things should play out or what should happen in these scenarios, but brands, people, etc. need to be cognizant and sensitive of the situation.

So the problem here is that some people feel it is somehow racist, or even sexist, to use said stereotypes if you don’t belong to that “culture”, in this case the Orient. Personally I see cultures, not nationalities, and I want to embrace them all, I want to love what every culture has to offer.

If we’re going to play this game, I’m an Asian women, and I hate this campaign. Yellowface is NOT OKAY. Do you seriously need someone of that ethnicity to tell you that it isn’t acceptable? I don’t need to be black in order to know that throwing a plantation party is racist, gauche, and riddled with huge amounts of WTF. While we’re at it, let’s get real: people who say that they don’t see color are delusional. When you have people of color getting paid significantly less than their white counterparts, judged for not integrating better into society, and/or getting killed or having harsh sentences imposed on them, are you for real saying that you don’t see color? People need to act and behave in a manner where color isn’t an issue, but to say that you don’t ever see it, you’re part of the problem.

One thing I can’t help asking myself is: had I used an Asian model, wouldn’t that reinforce the stereotype even more?

As I’ve mentioned before, I would encourage the use of an Asian model instead of a white person in yellowface. (And let me be clear here, yellowface isn’t just about a non-ethnic person wearing Asian dress.) Asian people have long struggled for work in the fashion and media industry, and it’s still a problem today. That said, I don’t see why it would be so difficult or terrible to consult with a local Japanese chapter about what would be appropriate. My personal rule of thumb: if you want to be controversial, fine, but don’t try to present it to me like I should be grateful that you’re doing my ethnicity a service.

Further more, the Japanese brand Bradelis who also trades in USA, has a huge emphasis on boobs; if their images of “blond bombshell” does not reinforce the western stereotype I’m not sure what does!

I honestly don’t have time to get into this, but there is a huge problem that has existed in Asian societies where “being white” is treasured. In my personal experiences when I lived overseas and from experiences shared by my Asian friends and family, there is a desire to look white and be accepted by white people. Skincare products are sold with whitening properties (and despite articles saying that it’s “brightening,” I’ll wait for someone to tell me that dark skin is perceived the same as whiter/light skin), Asian women get plastic surgery to have a European nose/eyes, blue eyes and blonde hair are “prized.” If you want to look a certain way, I support your right to look however you want, but it breaks my heart and makes me angry that so many Asian people find themselves ugly or don’t have white characteristics or traits that makes them attractive. I myself have struggled with self-loathing about my identity in regards to my ethnicity, and to be frank, there were many moments where I wanted to be white because I’d be perceived as “better.” Perhaps “equal” would be the better word…

It’s bad when brands are so obtuse that they don’t even know that they’re sexualizing or stereotyping Asian women and act like we should be grateful because we’re just too dumb to realize how they’re being “tasteful” and “respectful” by allowing white women to wear yellowface. Also, it just shows how much you can’t argue or even carry on an intelligent discussion especially when the so-called enlightened keep referring to Asian cultures – in this day and age – as the Orient, and Asian people, as Orientals*. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

(*I don’t find Oriental/Orient to be racist, but just ignorant, out of touch, and outdated. But YMMV will vary depending on the Asian people you ask.)

Edit – I’ve updated this post for clarification. I got confused with the Guerrilla Geisha/Marlies Dekkers brand, because let’s face it, they’re all the same.
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PS – Happy America Day! I am proud to be an American. :)

Ahhh, where to begin? Agent Provocateur – a brand that’s as ubiquitous as Victoria’s Secret in the lingerie world – but markets itself as the epitome of luxury lingerie. Suffice it to say, I have extremely mixed feelings about the brand. In the beginning, I was a huge fan when Joseph Corre and Serena Rees were at the helm, but over time, I felt like the brand has significantly deviated away from its rebellious, punk rock roots. I feel that their marketing is snobby and alienating, and as a minority woman with a distinctly non-mainstream body type (not tall, thin, or white), I’m simply not welcome. Furthermore, I just can’t deal with despicable [shaming comments] from their employees, with no acknowledgement from the brand, that behavior like this is not acceptable.

Honestly, for the prices they charge, the quality should be better, but frankly, it isn’t. People love to slag on Victoria’s Secret, but in my opinion – god, I’m fanning the fire! – regular AP is very much like VS but with silk and better laces that come at a dearer price. Sizing is equally limited if not more restrictive, construction is comparable, the models all look the same, and it’s also produced in China. I’m really failing to see how AP is superior once you peel away all of that marketing.

I’m sure some people would say that I’m just being butt hurt by all of this, but I’m really not! My big ol’ Asian ass can think of 10 brands off the top of my head that would appreciate my money. There is a lot of choice, so I’m not hurting when it comes to options. Like VS, they’ve made their lasting mark on the lingerie industry, and every now and then, they release something that I want to buy.

Bra

Rudy bra with Sophie Hallette Leavers lace over purple silk.

Rudy bra with Sophie Hallette Leavers lace over purple silk.

I purchased Rudy during their spring sale in 2014. I’m a bit surprised that I bought this set because 1) I don’t usually purchase black lingerie and 2) I’m not a huge fan of purple, but somehow, Rudy just spoke to me! I think the strappy details and the lace overlay sealed the deal for me.

Unlike most AP bras, this one actually fit me in the British size that I usually take, 36A. It’s also very comfortable to wear. Unfortunately, the strap detail at the top is not adjustable, so in order for the straps to lay properly on top of my boobs, I have to constantly readjust. For normal wear, I wouldn’t bother, but for pictures, that’s another story.

Beautiful lacing.

Beautiful lacing. Black is so hard for me to photograph, but hopefully you can see some of the details!

I really love the lace on this bra, which is also used in the knickers and the suspender. It’s relatively sturdy, but it’s also stretchy with great stretch recovery. However, you have to be careful or you can put your finger through the more delicate parts… as I found out. :| (Black mesh backings 4 lyfe!)

Brief

Rudy brief - front view.

Rudy brief – front view.

In my older age, I’m anti-thong. Thankfully, AP makes some of the prettiest briefs! I purchased the Rudy knickers in a size 3. As previously mentioned, since the lace is so stretchy, the size 4 – the size I usually take – was too large. Although these look like a high cut leg, they’re not (and if they were, I wouldn’t have bought them); they fit me like a regular brief with a higher waist. There’s also an adorable black and purple bow in the center.

Rudy brief - back. Look at that gorgeous, electrifying purple silk!

Rudy brief – back. Look at that gorgeous, electrifying purple silk!

Suspender

Rudy suspender - detail.

Rudy suspender – detail.

Last but not least, here’s the suspender! Do you ever feel that a lot of suspenders that comes with sets are just kind of half-assed? Oh my god, me, too! The Rudy suspender did not disappoint. It’s very nice to see the lacing motif continued on the sides of the suspender along with the floral lace and hint of purple silk. There’s also a sweet little bow in the center like what you see embellished on the briefs.

Agent Provocateur Rudy bra, brief, and suspender; Leg Avenue (I think) faux seamed stockings.

Agent Provocateur Rudy bra, brief, and suspender; Leg Avenue (I think) faux seamed stockings.

Do I think that this is a luxury set? Not at all but don’t get me wrong: it’s quite nice, and I really like it, but when I think of luxury, I don’t think of regular AP. Quality is on par with a lot of brands I own like Myla, Mimi Holliday, some Bordelle, and dare I say it: VS.

Rudy has long been sold out, but rogue pieces can be found on eBay. Hopefully this review can at least be a point of reference for those who wish to purchase AP in the future. I’m not sure how helpful it actually is since their sizing is all over the place, but at least in my obituary, it can say “at least this basic bitch reviewed AP before she died.”

Apologies in advance for the image quality. I keep losing the quality in resolution, but I also did take these photos when the sun was setting… Also, black is really hard to photograph. Well, I tried. :)

All items in this post were purchased by me. Agent Provocateur did not ask for this review, nor was I compensated for this post. No affiliate links were used.

I am incredibly overdue on this post, so let’s get into it!

Almost a year ago, I purchased the Cassia set from Toru and Naoko. Unfortunately, I had some serious fit issues that left me scratching my head. After my review was published, Camila reached out to me and offered me another set since she had no more Cassia fabric. By then, Toru and Naoko had started tweaking their patterns and had released a second wave of designs. Since Toru and Naoko’s aesthetic really appeals to me and I wanted a set that I could wear, I was incredibly grateful and accepted.

It was a tough decision, but I eventually decided on the Daisy bra and the matching Daisy briefs. Since I was nervous about the set being too small for me, I sized up in both the bra and the bottoms to a large. When the set arrived to me in the mail, I was so excited! Toru and Naoko’s packaging is lovely; the pieces came in PVC pouches with a silver snap and some stickers.

God, I can’t get over how cute this set is. I LOVE patterns, but throw some sequins on it (embroidered nonetheless), and I’m helpless. As with Cassia, the stitching on the Daisy pieces was perfect – no skipped stitches, no wonky sewing – just perfection.

Toru and Naoko Daisy  - embroidered sequins.

Toru and Naoko Daisy – embroidered sequins.

As for fit… Well, let’s just say I overcompensated on the fit for the bra. Sigh. It was much too big in both the band and the cups. I felt my heart sink and just felt awful for all of the hassle. I actually was just going to keep the large, but after contacting Camila, she confirmed that the bra was too big on me, and offered to ship me a medium. I mailed the large bra back to her, and she immediately sent me the medium (even before receiving my parcel!).

Toru and Naoko Daisy Bra - bralette style!

Toru and Naoko Daisy Bra – bralette style!

When I received it, the fit was honestly just right. Hooray! The bra was firm in the band and gave me good support. One thing worth mentioning about this particular cut: I personally feel that this bra style is best suited for someone who has breasts that are fuller on the bottom that splay outwards. On me, the inside edge of the triangle bra just covers my nips. If you have very narrow breasts, you may find yourself slipping out of it! I feel that Toru and Naoko’s bra size chart is true to size based off my experience with the Daisy set, and in the future, I will purchase their bras in a medium.

As for the bottoms, the large fit perfectly!

Toru and Naoko Daisy Brief

Toru and Naoko Daisy Brief

I absolutely love the silver hardware that is used in this set, and I adore how the front panel is attached to the mesh back panel with lingerie sliders. It’s such a lovely small detail.
Toru and Naoko Daisy Slider

That said, I do think their knickers generally tend to run small; however, I truly feel that the sizing with the Daisy knickers is much more accurate than it was with Cassia. Certain brands run smaller on the bottom (old Bordelle and Maison Close come to mind), so knowing how you fit in the brand – as well as the amount of coverage you prefer – are factors to be taken into consideration. For me, my butt is happy and comfortable in the large, so in the future, I will continue to purchase a large in bottoms!

Toru and Naoko Daisy Set - Worn.

Toru and Naoko Daisy Set – Worn. I literally have no idea why my right foot looks mangled in this pic, so don’t look too closely. ;) AHHH, YOU LOOKED.

I’m very, very happy with my Daisy set, and I love wearing it! I think it’s adorable and fun and would look great at spring/summer festivals. Truth be told, I was unsure if I would ever purchase from Toru and Naoko again, but after how everything played out, I can honestly say that I will and that it would be a pleasure. I also now feel confident about purchasing the appropriate size in the future. Camila’s customer service left such a positive impression on me, and I want to support businesses who offer great products but also provide equally great service.

Because seriously… I’m having heart palpitations over their limited Lempicka Collection. Pale pink and black? YES, PLZ.

(c) Toru and Naoko. Lempicka collection featuring the Juana bra and Sharon knickers.

(c) Toru and Naoko. Lempicka collection featuring the Juana bra and Sharon knickers.

Toru and Naoko generously provided the Daisy set to me at no additional cost. Toru and Naoko did not ask for an updated review, nor did they offer monetary compensation, nor did they read this review before publication. No affiliate links were used.

Recently, very interesting narratives have been shared on Twitter. The one that has picked up momentum is the topic of transparency. I actually wrote about my finances a year ago, but I’d like to revisit it in light of our most recent discussions. Please note: this isn’t a call out post or anything of that sort, but rather, a post to be more honest about what’s going on in real life versus what is portrayed on the ‘gram or internet.

I reread my previous post, and it’s pretty accurate. I’m thrifty by nature, picky, and have been buying lingerie for almost 10 years. I’ve worked shitty jobs, dealt with shitty people, but in the end, had things come together. I’m also older than most people who are active on social media and have become more established in my career. Still no kids and still dislike going out. :P

Looking back on my post, one thing stands out to me: my budget was being treated more like an expense account, and I was not being entirely aware of just how much I was spending. I was paying all of my bills on time, had no credit card debt, but somehow, I just never seemed to have that much liquid cash. It wasn’t until October 2015 did I seriously sit down and reassess my habits and literally began to track every. single. penny. that I spent. On top of it, I created a proactive budget with distinct categories that itemized every single monthly expense. Back then, I was using Mint.com. Now, I would not recommend it. Instead, I would use a spreadsheet or any budgeting software that has you manually entering all of your expenses – no import. I currently use YNAB4.

If you asked me now, I can tell you exactly how much I spent on groceries in April: $171.59. Or I could tell you how much I’ve spent on cat food since January: $114.31. Or something perhaps more relevant, on lingerie (adjusted), $433.12.

One of the gorgeous bras I purchased this year from La Lilouche!

One of the gorgeous bras I purchased this year from La Lilouche!

Unlike most people, I’m going to actually give some real numbers. This is an excerpt of a portion of my budget from April. Note: some “expenses” like property taxes, home maintenance, car repairs, vehicle registration, vet care, etc. have not been included in the monthly expense category but are in long term savings (not shown):
April 2016 Budget Excerpt

As you can see, I’m not perfect (nor is Comcast, and I’m still waiting for my damned internet bill to be adjusted). There are times where I do overspend, but I usually adjust my budgets for next month or give myself more money in a category by removing it from another. Since I started proactively managing my money, I’ve seen a remarked improvement in my overall spending as well as my net worth:
May 2016 Net Worth

No Y axis because although I believe in transparency, I’m still not comfortable with telling strangers on the internet how much liquid cash I have. (Just to clarify, the red are my debts where I have promotional financing with 0% interest. My philosophy: if you can’t afford it, don’t finance it. I could pay these debts off immediately, but I prefer to invest my money elsewhere.)

All of this brings me to today. It’s difficult to say and talk about publicly, but since we’re being transparent, I was laid off early this month due to the energy industry taking a huge hit. (Rejoice, haters!) I know for a fact if I didn’t have my hands around my finances, I would’ve probably had a heart attack. I have a little bit of unemployment coming in, surprise severance pay, leftover vacation bank, and some liquid cash for emergencies, but my goal is to find a job ASAP before I have to touch that emergency fund. I’m not sad, and I’m not worried… yet.

Frankly, I have enough lingerie to wear and write about that I never did, so there probably won’t be a huge lapse in content. Then again, I’m not super consistent with updating, soooo… ;)

For more perspective, please visit these lovely ladies who have waxed poetic on this subject:
Morning Madonna – Life: Buying Transparency
Lingerie Detective: Money Talk (series)
Holy Brail – Let’s talk about money, honey: lingerie retail therapy
Of Lambs and Lace – Lingerie Blogging & Financial Transparency
The Lingerista – Lingerie and Full Frontal Finance

In the forever struggle of dealing with the fact that my 30+ year old body is simply not the same as my 20 year old body has been a challenge. Recently, at work, we had a health screening, and it was disheartening. Comparing my stats from 5 years ago to now, I’ve gained 26 pounds. My waist went up 3 inches! Although my other numbers are still in the healthy range, they’re nowhere near what they were back then. At the end of the day, I want to be in good health and also equally strong. I’ve finally got some of my problematic eating habits under control, and I’ve been able to go back to the gym consistently. I’ve been pretty happy with my progress, but boy, can selfies be an absolute soul destroyer.

This is the only photo that I found remotely likeable. Props to filters for making my skin look so smooth and perfect!

This is the only photo that I found remotely likeable. Props to filters for making my skin look so smooth and perfect!

I like lingerie body shots, so I try to incorporate them with my reviews. Since I have been battling these mental monsters for most of 2015, updates have been sporadic. I’ve also had some super important stuff on the side to take care of, but hopefully come end of April/May, things will be back to normal (with monsters slayed!). ;) Are people okay with just flat-lays? I always love pictures because they help sooooo much. Because I prefer body shots, I feel like that’s what people want to see.

What brought on these thoughts were pictures I took for this review. I think I look like a troll with no shape. I somehow managed to take a literal thousand or so selfies (I got my friend’s old iPhone 5c, and apparently I held the trigger on the selfie stick too long??), and going through them was like this draining, depressing chore. Despite these bouts of “I hate how I look on film,” I’m actually 80% of the time (at least) happy with my body. As a sweet friend wrote, “Death by selfie!” Seriously, no joke.

Recently, I’ve been on a huge bodysuit kick. I just can’t get enough of them!! As I previously mentioned, I’m all about form and functionality, so poppers/snaps are a must. I guess some people move the bodysuit to the side when they pee, but seriously, do they not poop? You can’t move the bodysuit to the side when you’re doing that… The thought of getting naked to use the toilet isn’t fun for me either, especially if you’re going out and trying not to touch anything in the stall.

Moving right along…

I purchased this gorgeous Lola Haze bodysuit, A Perfect Package, from a stockist.

Lola Haze Perfect Package Teddy (but actually a bodysuit according to Wikipedia definitions :p) (c) Lola Haze.

Lola Haze Perfect Package Teddy (but actually a bodysuit according to Wikipedia definitions :p) (c) Lola Haze.

Here’s the item description:

Please note: Lace pattern may vary slightly from photo. A Perfect Package…of you! This gorgeous teddy will flatter any figure and perfect all your assets. Gold mesh draped front leaves a peek of lace to tantalize, while minimizing your waist and keeping your goodies mysterious.

What an appropriate name for this bodysuit! I’m huge fan of the gold mesh draping, which is like a big hug around your body, and I also love how it provides additional coverage. The lace pattern on my bodysuit is actually a rose-print. The snaps are smooth and and don’t require weird body contortions in order to snap together or snap apart. (I really HATE bodysuits that have the snaps set directly into the fabric because it can cause the fabric to tear if you aren’t un/snapping at the snap.)

Rose Lace Close-up; lace pattern may vary!

Rose Lace Close-up; lace pattern may vary!

When I purchase bodysuits, it gets tricky. For one, I have a long torso with short appendages – think Captain Seamus from Family Guy hah. Most dresses don’t fall at my waistline but rather, at the base of my rib cage. When I’m buying bodysuits, I look for the following:

1. Adjustable straps – this allows for more length in the torso
2. …preferably spaghetti strap-like for more flexibility
3. If the bodysuit is like a fitted top with sleeves or a halter neck, I tend to size up.
*Just to be clear, this isn’t foolproof due to garment proportions.

I purchased this bodysuit in a size medium. Fit is wonderful despite my actual measurements being a few inches larger. The lace and gold mesh are very, very soft and stretchy. This bodysuit is also nicely made. Laura, the owner and designer, designs and creates all of her samples, but the finished product is produced by a factory in NYC.

However, I’m honestly torn about how I look wearing this. Worn alone, I think this bodysuit makes me look super stumpy, and I don’t think this bodysuit “flatters” me. I think part of the problem is how high the leg cuts are on my person, and I loathe that 90s high-cut look. It’s literally the one trend that I hope stays dead. High cuts don’t make my legs look longer; they make my body look incredibly distorted and emphasize any skin or fat I have around my hips.

Avec Monsieur Cat Butt. :3 Leg cuts are high on my body. PS - where did my waist go??

Avec Monsieur Cat Butt. :3 Leg cuts are high on my body. PS – where did my waist go??

That said, none of that is a huge deal breaker because realistically, I’d pair this with a bottom and go along my merry way. :) Truth be told, I’m not ogling myself when I’m wearing lingerie, but the narrative is different when you’re putting your body out there on the internet and are deleting hundreds of pictures from a selfie stick misadventure.

Lola Haze has been around since 2008, and they’ve received all sorts of press coverage from big shots like Vogue, WWD, and Elle. I haven’t seen much about the brand in blogs, which I think is a shame! The price point is comfortable and fair, and your purchase directly supports a designer with ethical production in the US. The bodysuit I purchased retails for $69, which is on par with numerous higher-end brands and is attainable for those with some disposable income.

I received confirmation from Laura that the website is up and running and attended, so if you’re someone who gets a bit anxious about no dated updates (I can’t be the only one, right??) and quiet social media accounts (which are usually not a good sign in the lingerie world), rest assured! Laura responded to my questions promptly and within a few hours, and I have no doubt that your order will be handled with the utmost attention and care!

Last but not least, here’s another wishlist item – I really should get that second part written – that has totally stolen my heart. It would’ve been perfect for Marc Jacob’s rollerina disco-chic NYFW 2015 party… :)

Lola Haze Golden Goddess  Teddy. (c) Lola Haze

Lola Haze Golden Goddess Teddy. (c) Lola Haze

All items in this post were purchased by me. Lola Haze did not ask for this review, nor was I compensated for it. No affiliate links were used.

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